Not many (if indeed any) people join a dating site to make friends
After so much suffering i finally met someone special on a dating site and we already shared our emails and Skype and he is helping me with my book.He even shown me a book that he is writting and he says that i shouldnt worry because i never bore him!!He is really kind and sweet and i felt a special connection between us since the first moment that we talked.But I don’t have the courage to tell him about my feelings for him!!I’m too scared that he could run away and loose his friendship. ;( We know each other for less then one month.
almost one month…but not yet. What should i do??
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Y.M needs advice
Answer:
I am so happy you met someone. I’m thrilled. Listen, if you met this guy on a dating site, he was obviously on the site searching for a lover or life partner, not a friend! We don’t tend to go on a dating site to find friends.
That said, the best relationships do start as friendships. This man is clearly behaving like a really good friend to you.
What do you have to lose in talking with him about how HE sees your relationship. What he wants out of it?
I know you have a fear of rejection, but If you ask him what I said, you don’t have to stick your neck out.
He very well may be shy and afraid that YOU only like him as a friend.
Don’t forget, women are the ones who are supposed to send out what I call the Green Lights. These are the signs that you are interested in a romantic way. Research shows that guys don’t make a move until they’ve received LOTS of Green Lights.
To complicate matters, men say that women’s Green Lights are often so subtle that they miss the signals all together. So, I’m thinking that your shyness and fear of making the wrong move with him is causing you to hang back so much that he doesn’t know you are into him romantically.
So, ask him what him wants and up the Green Lights, and I’m betting that you’re going to be whistling a very happy tune.
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