How can you tell if you’re in a rebound relationship—or a more permanent one? What do you *mean* to him—or her? And how can a guy know he’s really the only one a woman is seeing?
From Vincent: —If A Guy Is Serious, Shouldn’t He Just Propose? (Don’t women need to date around until then?)—
Hi Dr D.
I was in the “getting divorced” mode for a long time. I let my morals get in the way and thus did not cheat. I wonder at times if I should have, especially since my “wife” and I lived apart. I did finally make the leap and am very happy now.
Being the guy, trusting the woman that they are newly “in love with” is not married or attached to others is very difficult. I suspect the attached woman would still lie, or avoid the issue. Which leads me to the woman’s side. I believe you mentioned in an earlier article that women are best served by dating around and not committing to one man “until a ring is on her finger”. It seems the guy’s, Dan’s in this case, only real way of knowing is to actually propose if he is serious. Until that time, he should use whatever clues he has about his date, and continue to date around himself and not worry so much about the details, unless the potential husband is armed of course.