Have you been looking in what turned out to be all the wrong places to find the right person?
Maybe you’ve confined your search area to your office, friends parties or even school reunions with the odd blind date thrown in my a loyal friend who didn’t want to see you spend the rest of your life alone?
If this sounds familiar may be it’s time to change all that and reach out to the biggest dating pools on the planet in the form of the thousands of dating sites that exist nowadays.
Maybe it’s time to ignore the social stigma your afraid of having to admit to your friends that you met your soulmate on a dating site or are afraid of all the weirddos your bound to meet there – at least if you believe what the tabloids say!
Now is probably a good time to set the record straight – almost 50% of single Americans now use online dating and let’s face it with millions of members all over the world it’s the best way to increase the gene pool and certainly the best chance you’ll have of avoiding spinsterhood!
There are literally thousands of dating sites catering for a huge diversity of religions, political parties and ethnic groups. In addition there are interest groups for dog lovers, bikers, Goths and many more as well as the big generic dating sites that try to cater for everyone. Last but not least there are dating sites for specific age groups such as Third Age Dating for people 40 and upwards!
One thing is certain you will be spoiled for choice and your biggest challenge could be finding out which dating site is right for you. The following pointers will help you make that momentous decision that will hopefully be the first step towards meeting your perfect partner.
Online Dating Safety
Have you noticed that the news media is full of bad news and if you want to suffer from bouts of depression all you have to do is to believe the stories about the doom and gloom they feature every day. One of the most popular topics at the moment is internet dating so surprise surprise a disproportionate amount of publicity is given to internet scammers! You will search long and hard to find any good news. Why? Because it’s an established fact that good news doesn’t increase readership or sell newspapers!
People don’t want to hear good news but I’m going to give it to you anyway. Please note dating people on the internet is far safer than dating people you meet by chance going about your daily business. The reason for this is simple – you can get to know them well first at your own pace from the comfort and safety of your own home before meeting face to face for a first date. On the other hand with conventional dating you meet first then get to know them better afterwards! Think about it – which “method” carries more risk?
Taking some basic precautions such as not giving out your address, telephone number, surname or email address online will ensure your online dating experience will be a pleasure.
Online Dating – The Costs
If you are serious about online dating then be prepared to pay for it and you’ll find that people who do are serious about it and are not just there for fun.
Oh and by the way which type of site do you think is more likely to be popular with scammers-free sites or pay sites?
The expression free dating sites in one way too is a misnomer because usually these sites make their money from Google ads which can be a little bit annoying when you’re pouring over members’ profiles trying to find your perfect match.
So if you’re serious about dating and want to avoid scammers, people there just for the fun and loads of Google ads choose a dating site that charges you for the privilege of contacting other members.
Features and content
All dating sites are not born equal when it comes to the matchmaking features they offer and how easy or difficult they are to find your way around so join a few – maybe two or three! Even the pay sites are free to join and take a look around.
This will enable you to find out which one you like the best and those with the features you feel will be most useful. Most importantly you’ll discover which site’s members really take your fancy before taking out a subscription that will enable you to contact them.
The best sites enable you to communicate with other members without revealing your personal details.
You need to make sure that the site you choose has matchmaking features such as voice chat, video chat, secure email and is mobile enabled if you wish to access the service anywhere anytime using your mobile.
It’s also reassuring to know that the best sites take security seriously and have controls designed to identify and eliminate scammers although as mentioned earlier scammers tend to frequent the free dating sites more than the pay sites for obvious reasons.
Check out the membership to find out the geographic spread. If you prefer to stick to your hometown then it’s pointless joining a dating site that has few members there to choose from but please bear in mind that limiting your acceptable search area will also limit your choice so try to be flexible.
Dating advice – who needs it?
Some dating sites provide free dating advice but ultimately it’s up to you whether you want or feel you need advice and therefore if this is something you would consider in deciding which dating site to join.
There is no shortage of dating advice on the Internet but much of it is written in poor English and some of it is just poor advice so you need to use your commonsense to decide if it’s valuable or no and relevant to you.
Who are you and what do you want?
Often someone’s view of themself is totally different from how other people see them. It is worth comparing your description of you with your friends description of you before you complete your online dating profile. If yours is the same as your friends well and good but if not then it would better to use their description of you because that’s how other people will see you too.
Only when you know who you really are will you be able to decide what you really want from a relationship and the type of person you would find compatible and whatever you do don’t believe these people that tell you opposites attract! Small differences in relationships are ok but big differences only lead to conflict later on and ultimately heartache as the relationship breaks down.
Never settle for less than your soulmate
Finding your soulmate is never an easy task. It requires tenacity and patience but most of all it requiries activity. This means setting objectives for contacting new people every week. For example 10 new contact emails each week. Don’t wait for people to contact you. Take the initiative and you’ll be surprised at how effective that can be.
50% of divorces nowadays end in divorce. Don’t let it happen to you by settling for less than your soulmate!