Personal Development

Do You Believe In You? Take This Self-Esteem Quiz To Find Out

Published on Mar 22, 2014

How worthy are you? Take the self-esteem quiz.

Self-esteem should not be confused with self-confidence. Self-confidence is believing in your competence and your ability to do something, whereas self-esteem is believing in your goodness. You build self-esteem the old fashioned way, you e-a-r-n it—through dedication, effort, and sacrifice in the service of others. When you have developed it, your reward is to feel whole and satisfied. Self-esteem is crucial to how much or how little contentment you feel at the end of your life.

One of the causes of low self-esteem is feeling that despite sometimes appearing generous and acting generously towards the world, deep down you mainly care about yourself and are selfish, lack real goodness and are therefore not worthy of success or happiness.

How worthy are you?

Score the following with: 1 = rarely; 2 = sometimes; 3 = frequently

You raise and DON’T lower the self-esteem of others
You sustain an effort outside of your comfort zone to help others as much or even before yourself
You give the same effort to a fair decision that you disagree with as you do to something you agree with
You ask for help or assistance
You quickly and sincerely thank someone who has helped you.
You quickly offer help without the other person having to ask for it
You fully forgive and forget after you’ve been hurt and quickly move on
You quickly recognize and earnestly apologize for your failures of commission or omission to people you have let down
You enthusiastically and sincerely congratulate someone else on an achievement or good fortune
You give much more to the world than you take from it

10 – 16 = You’re not worth very much. You feel much more entitled to things than you actually deserve. You’re more of a taker than a giver and come from a feeling of scarcity.

17 – 24 = You are under the belly of the bell shaped curve with the majority of people. You could certainly improve, but you are also certainly a decent person.

25 – 30 = You are a class act. People are fortunate to have you in their life and blessed to have you as a friend. You are an optimist, a giver and come from a feeling of abundance.

Now for the real challenge. Ask people who care about you and want you to be the best you can be to candidly rate you. And if it their rating is lower than yours, ask them to give you specific examples of where you can improve. Then THANK them (because it’s gutsy for them to be candid) and ask them if you can check with them informally every month what they have observed and then to make further suggestions on how to improve even further.

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Mark Goulston, M.D.

Mark Goulston, M.D. is a business advisor, consultant, speaker, trainer and coach trained as a clinical psychiatrist who honed his skills as an FBI/police hostage negotiation trainer who increases people’s ability to get through to anyone. He is Co- Founder of Heartfelt Leadership whose Mission is: Daring to Care and Go Positive Now and is the Resident Big Brother at Business Women Rising and serves on the Board of Advisers of American Women Veterans and Dr. Oz’ foundation, Health Corps. He is the author of international best selling book, “Just Listen” Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone (AMACOM, $24.95) which has reached #1 at amazon kindle in six business categories, #1 in China and Germany , #1 in audible audiobooks and has been translated into fourteen languages. Dr. Goulston and his book was also a PBS special entitled “Just Listen with Dr. Mark Goulston.” His next book, REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, co-authored with Dr. John Ullment will be the lead book for the American Management Association in January, 2013 and will focus on influencing people in a post-selling world. Dr. Goulston’s development of those skills started with his education: a B.A. from UC Berkeley, an M.D. from Boston University, post graduate residency in psychiatry at UCLA. He went on to be a professor at UCLA’s internationally renowned Neuropsychiatric Institute for more than twenty years, become a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and was named one of America’s Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 and again in 2009 and 2011 by Washington, D.C. based Consumers’ Research Council of America. A partial list of companies, organizations and universities he has trained, spoken to, provided executive coaching to or consulted with include: GE, IBM, Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, Xerox, Deutsche Bank, Hyatt, Accenture, Astra Zenica, British Airways, Sodexo, ESPN, Kodak, Federal Express, YPO, YPOWPO India, Association for Corporate Growth, FBI, Los Angeles District Attorney, White & Case, Seyfarth Shaw, UCLA Anderson School of Management, USC, Pepperdine University. He is or has been a member of the National Association of Corporate Directors and the Worldwide Association of Business Coaches and is the best selling author of four prior books including the international best seller, Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior (Perigee, $13.95) Get Out of Your Own Way at Work…and Help Others Do the Same (Perigee, $14.95), is a contributor to Harvard Business, blogs for the Huffington Post, Business Insider writes the Tribune media syndicated column, Solve Anything with Dr. Mark, column on leadership for FAST COMPANY, Directors Monthly. He is frequently called upon to share his expertise with regard to contemporary business, national and world news by television, radio and print media including: Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, Los Angeles Times, ABC/NBC/CBS/Fox/CNN/BBC News, Oprah, Today. Dr. Goulston lives in Los Angeles with his wife and three children.

2 Comments

Darlene Lancer, LMFT

Mar 12, 2015 at 4:26 pm

The inner critic is the biggest obstacle to self-esteem. For a strategy to how to overcome self-criticism, see “10 Steps to Self-Esteem: The Ultimate Guide to Stop Self-Criticism.”
Darlene Lancer, LMFT
Author is “Conquering Shame and Codependency” and “10 Steps to Self-Esteem”
http://www.whatiscodependency.com
Not so fantastic mr Fox

Dec 21, 2015 at 6:50 am

Good to know that I’m worthless.
Selfish in a world of scarcity! Glad I took that test…