I suspect that fear of rejection is largely the fear of being forced to rethink our strategies.
Here are three ways to overcome that fear of rejection:
1. Consolation of thoroughness: Remember that rejection doesn’t necessarily mean your strategy is off. People reject things for all sorts of reasons that may have nothing to do with your strategy. Be thorough in developing your strategy and if it doesn’t fly with others it’s fine.
2. Doubt tolerance: Your strategies aren’t only in your head, you’ve sunk all sorts of effort into them. Changing strategies therefore entails all sorts of dreaded transactional costs. It’s not like flipping a switch; it’s like steering a whole armada of effort off course. Still, you neither want to over-react or under-react to news of failure, best done through the power of neutral thinking. Ignore past investment which is gone regardless of whether you change strategy or stick with it. Pay attention to the transactional costs of changing and long-term pay off. Practice breathing through your doubt about whether to change strategy, and practice trans-motivating on a dime if the payoff is better by means of a different strategy.
3. Progress agnosticism: Some of your most encouraging days will turn out to have been setbacks. Some of your most discouraging days will turn out to have been great leaps forward. Don’t assume your gut knows what will prove to be good or bad news. Your gut’s preoccupied with today.
[tweetthis]“I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want me.” ― Oprah Winfrey[/tweetthis]