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Key Differences Between Opinionated People And Passionate People

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Key Differences Between Opinionated People And Passionate People

What follows is my humble but passionate opinion about the differences between opinionated people and passionate people

Distinction 1:

  • Passionate people are win-win.
  • Opinionated people are “zero sum.”

Distinction 2:

  • Passionate people are focused on what feels true and right for them.
  • Opinionated people are focused on being right more than what feels right to them.

Distinction 3:

  • Passionate people don’t take it personally nor do they take offense if you disagree with them because they would rather continue focusing on what they’re passionate about than engage in an argument with you.
  • Opinionated people do take it personally and take offense if you disagree with them; in fact the most opinionated people will react that way if you don’t enthusiastically agree with them.

Distinction 4:

  • Passionate people are more secure because they are satisfied in just doing their thing.
  • Opinionated people are less secure in that they too often are trying to prove or show that they’re right and that if you differ, you’re wrong or even stupid.

Distinction 5:

  • Passionate people are more aspirational and are lifelong learners.
  • Opinionated people are more ambitious and are lifelong competitive and focused on winning and not losing.

Distinction 6:

  • Passionate people are lower maintenance, i.e. easy to please (just let them do what they’re passionate about) and difficult to upset (unless you’re aggressively thwarting what they’re passionate about).
  • Opinionated people are higher maintenance, i.e. difficult to please (because they’re also often obsessive and compulsive about their POV) and easy to upset (if you disagree or just see things differently than them).

Distinction 7:

  • Passionate people have an easier time with aging because they don’t mind as much when life begins to say, “No,” to them with regard to health and other limitations.
  • Opinionated people have a tougher time with aging, because all through their lives they have had a tough time accepting, “No,” for an answer and when life inevitably begins to say it to them, they often go into a funk.

Now of course the above is just my humble — but passionate — opinion.  Therefore I am open and in fact welcoming of yours.

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Mark Goulston, M.D. is a business advisor, consultant, speaker, trainer and coach trained as a clinical psychiatrist who honed his skills as an FBI/police hostage negotiation trainer who increases people’s ability to get through to anyone.

He is Co- Founder of Heartfelt Leadership whose Mission is: Daring to Care and Go Positive Now and is the Resident Big Brother at Business Women Rising and serves on the Board of Advisers of American Women Veterans and Dr. Oz’ foundation, Health Corps.

He is the author of international best selling book, “Just Listen” Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone (AMACOM, $24.95) which has reached #1 at amazon kindle in six business categories, #1 in China and Germany , #1 in audible audiobooks and has been translated into fourteen languages. Dr. Goulston and his book was also a PBS special entitled “Just Listen with Dr. Mark Goulston.” His next book, REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, co-authored with Dr. John Ullment will be the lead book for the American Management Association in January, 2013 and will focus on influencing people in a post-selling world.

Dr. Goulston’s development of those skills started with his education: a B.A. from UC Berkeley, an M.D. from Boston University, post graduate residency in psychiatry at UCLA. He went on to be a professor at UCLA’s internationally renowned Neuropsychiatric Institute for more than twenty years, become a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and was named one of America’s Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 and again in 2009 and 2011 by Washington, D.C. based Consumers’ Research Council of America.

A partial list of companies, organizations and universities he has trained, spoken to, provided executive coaching to or consulted with include: GE, IBM, Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, Xerox, Deutsche Bank, Hyatt, Accenture, Astra Zenica, British Airways, Sodexo, ESPN, Kodak, Federal Express, YPO, YPOWPO India, Association for Corporate Growth, FBI, Los Angeles District Attorney, White & Case, Seyfarth Shaw, UCLA Anderson School of Management, USC, Pepperdine University.

He is or has been a member of the National Association of Corporate Directors and the Worldwide Association of Business Coaches and is the best selling author of four prior books including the international best seller, Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior (Perigee, $13.95) Get Out of Your Own Way at Work…and Help Others Do the Same (Perigee, $14.95), is a contributor to Harvard Business, blogs for the Huffington Post, Business Insider writes the Tribune media syndicated column, Solve Anything with Dr. Mark, column on leadership for FAST COMPANY, Directors Monthly. He is frequently called upon to share his expertise with regard to contemporary business, national and world news by television, radio and print media including: Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, Los Angeles Times, ABC/NBC/CBS/Fox/CNN/BBC News, Oprah, Today.

Dr. Goulston lives in Los Angeles with his wife and three children.

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