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5 Happy Marriage Rules

Happy marriage rules for longevity and harmony

How well does your marriage follow these rules?

Would the following defrost your relationship or make it even more frosty?

  1. Unsolicited criticism will henceforth be ignored
  2. Unsolicited advice will henceforth be respectfully declined
  3. Helpful, loving and respectfully delivered suggestions will henceforth be considered and appreciated
  4. Earnest and legitimate requests will henceforth be granted
  5. Loving acts of kindness, generosity and expressions of appreciation and compliments will henceforth be cherished…and reciprocated

If you answered, “More frosty,” you might want to think of having a heartfelt conversation with your partner about the elephant in the room, because it’s a big one and is standing in the way of the relationship you want.

P.S. It may be that as a more selective couples therapist, I have seen far too many couples that didn’t follow these happy marriage rules and that could be why they ended up in my office.

To save couples time and money and my having to endlessly referee stubbornness, I now show them the rules before they come in and have as part of my agenda—if we meet—for each of them to identify and then remove the roadblocks to their following the happy marriage  rules.

If either or both of them are unable to, my “respectful” response is that it appears more important to that person or both of them to “be right” than to improve their relationship and then rather than give them “unsolicited advice,” I “respectfully” decline to see them.

That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t see someone else, it just means that they shouldn’t see me.

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Mark Goulston, M.D. is a business advisor, consultant, speaker, trainer and coach trained as a clinical psychiatrist who honed his skills as an FBI/police hostage negotiation trainer who increases people’s ability to get through to anyone.

He is Co- Founder of Heartfelt Leadership whose Mission is: Daring to Care and Go Positive Now and is the Resident Big Brother at Business Women Rising and serves on the Board of Advisers of American Women Veterans and Dr. Oz’ foundation, Health Corps.

He is the author of international best selling book, “Just Listen” Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone (AMACOM, $24.95) which has reached #1 at amazon kindle in six business categories, #1 in China and Germany , #1 in audible audiobooks and has been translated into fourteen languages. Dr. Goulston and his book was also a PBS special entitled “Just Listen with Dr. Mark Goulston.” His next book, REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, co-authored with Dr. John Ullment will be the lead book for the American Management Association in January, 2013 and will focus on influencing people in a post-selling world.

Dr. Goulston’s development of those skills started with his education: a B.A. from UC Berkeley, an M.D. from Boston University, post graduate residency in psychiatry at UCLA. He went on to be a professor at UCLA’s internationally renowned Neuropsychiatric Institute for more than twenty years, become a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and was named one of America’s Top Psychiatrists for 2004-2005 and again in 2009 and 2011 by Washington, D.C. based Consumers’ Research Council of America.

A partial list of companies, organizations and universities he has trained, spoken to, provided executive coaching to or consulted with include: GE, IBM, Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, Xerox, Deutsche Bank, Hyatt, Accenture, Astra Zenica, British Airways, Sodexo, ESPN, Kodak, Federal Express, YPO, YPOWPO India, Association for Corporate Growth, FBI, Los Angeles District Attorney, White & Case, Seyfarth Shaw, UCLA Anderson School of Management, USC, Pepperdine University.

He is or has been a member of the National Association of Corporate Directors and the Worldwide Association of Business Coaches and is the best selling author of four prior books including the international best seller, Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior (Perigee, $13.95) Get Out of Your Own Way at Work…and Help Others Do the Same (Perigee, $14.95), is a contributor to Harvard Business, blogs for the Huffington Post, Business Insider writes the Tribune media syndicated column, Solve Anything with Dr. Mark, column on leadership for FAST COMPANY, Directors Monthly. He is frequently called upon to share his expertise with regard to contemporary business, national and world news by television, radio and print media including: Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, Fortune, Newsweek, Time, Los Angeles Times, ABC/NBC/CBS/Fox/CNN/BBC News, Oprah, Today.

Dr. Goulston lives in Los Angeles with his wife and three children.

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