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Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamory in the US, and the worldwide expert on polyamorous families with children. Sheff’s first book, The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Families and Relationships (2014), details her 15-year study of poly families with kids and was just reprinted in paperback, and her second book Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families (2015) is an edited anthology of writings by poly folks. An expert witness and Guardian Ad Litem with a background in academic sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, kink/BDSM, and issues facing trans* people. She is the CEO and Director of Legal Services at the Sheff Consulting Group, a think-tank of experts specializing in unconventional and underserved populations. You can find her blog on Psychology Today at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door

Stories By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.

Polyamory

In A Polyamorous Family Who Is Mom and Dad?

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Jan 5, 2016

Parents, according to kids in polyamorous families As part of my 15-year study of polyamorous families...
Eroticism

How To Introduce Kinky Sex To Your Date

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Nov 14, 2015

5 steps to broach the subject of kinky sex to your date without offence What if...
Relationship types

How To Open Up About Being In An Open Relationship

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Oct 29, 2015

Opening up to family and fiends about being in an open relationship isn’t easy. Here are...
Relationship types

How To Tell People You’re Polyamorous, Part 1

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Oct 23, 2015

Coming out as polyamorous can be tricky, first consider why and to whom. Deciding when, how,...
Relationship types

Why In The True Sense Of The Word Monogamy Is NOT Monogamy

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Oct 22, 2015

The death of compulsory monogamy and viewing monogamy as only a social good Because monogamy is...
Relationship types

Polyamory Or Monogamy? A Question Of Horses For Courses

By Elisabeth A. Sheff, Ph.D.Oct 22, 2015

Why choosing between polyamory or monogamy is very much down to individual preferences and values Most...