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She Needs To Risk Rejection



She Needs To Risk Rejection

Her fear of rejection is preventing her saying how she really feels

Dear Dr. Love,

I am in love with this guy who is my supervisor. I work in a mall as a part time job for the promotion of Axe Deodorant. And I insanely fell in love with this adorable guy. I have a great confidence that he won’t say “no” if I ask him out. But there’s lot of nervousness in me for such things =(. I have caught him staring at me many times. I even tried my best to show him that I have interest in him.

On Sunday, we were leaving from the mall. His friend accompanied him and the three of us were walking. And suddenly this guy whom I am in love with told me that he won’t come the next week. In place of him his friend will come. That was the time when I got stumped and really felt like crying. I really don’t know why did he said that. It was just the beginning of my love story and in a second he farewelled me!

His friend then left. And we both were walking at the railway station. I was feeling like crying my heart out. I was sad. He even asked me why are you so sad. But I couldn’t reply to him. I was shattered. I don’t know what to do. He won’t be coming this Saturday and Sunday. And unfortunately this weekend is the final week of work for me. That means we won’t ever meet again =(.

Please tell me what to do? I am damn scared, and I really love him a lot.

Thanks 🙂




Based on what you said, it seems clear that this man likes you very much. It also seems to me that he was trying to figure out whether you like him also. He told you that his friend would be working his shift during the following week. He didn’t say that he was leaving town and never coming back. I think he wanted you to know why he was going to be gone and that he would be back after your work ends.

As your supervisor, he knew that you wouldn’t be working in the mall after the week. He also may have felt uncomfortable dating a subordinate. It seems to me that he may have been letting you know where he was going to be and when so that you could reach out to him after your work ends.

If I understand you correctly, you won’t be working in the mall again following this weekend. If I understood correctly, he will be coming back the following week.

So the path is very clear. You need to go in and visit him the next time he’s on duty. If you go toward the end of his shift, he’ll be able to naturally ask you out for a drink or snack.

Let me know how you guys make out!

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Known to millions as "Dr. Love" through her website, Dr. Turndorf founded the web's first and immensely popular relationship advice column in 1995. She consistently attracts new fans and keeps her existing audience engaged through her compassionate understanding as well as her frank delivery and earthy sense of humor. At the same time, she puts her listeners at ease while digging deeply in their psyches and prescribing her signature cure. Dr. Turndorf's multimedia platform allows her to share relevant and timely advice via radio, online, in print and on television. Her radio show, "Ask Dr. Love," can be heard in Seattle on KKNW and on WebTalkRadio, which broadcasts in 80 countries worldwide. Her column entitled "We Can Work it Out," is published monthly online in Psychology Today. Her critically acclaimed books have been teaching readers the hard and fast facts to healing relationships for years. Dr. Turndorf's methods have been featured on national television networks, including CNN, NBC, CBS, VH1 and Fox, and on websites such as WebMD, iVillage,, She has also been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Glamour, American Woman, Modern Bride, and Marie Claire. Dr. Turndorf’s latest Hay House book, Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love's 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship, has been endorsed by New York Times bestselling authors Jack Canfield, Dr. John Gray and John Bradshaw. Since the recent death of Emile Jean Pin, her beloved husband of 27 years, Dr. Turndorf has discovered that relationships do not end in death. His miraculous manifestations, often in front of witnesses, have proven to her that there is life after life and love never dies. As a result of her experiences, Dr. Turndorf has developed a groundbreaking form of grief therapy that diverges from the traditional Western approach (grieve, let go and move on). By contrast, her method guides people to reconnect and, if needed, make peace with their departed loved ones. Her latest Hay House book on this topic is entitled Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased. To understand fully what Old Scars are, how they are formed, how they affect your relationships, and how to heal them, read my book Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased. For Free Gift details or to receive a sneak peek of Love Never DIes, visit the book page:

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