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Abusive Boyfriend Thinks She’s Being Pushy
Question
“Hi I don’t know where to even start..Married for 19 years before asking for a divorce.
Reconnected with a childhood friend made lots of plans together and I relocated my self and 13 year old back to Florida.
I’ve been dating him almost 2 years, with always the “don’t give up on me” We continually talked about us living together from day one. Then he explodes, because I get “pushy” He
breaks it off for a week or so then I go back…ps during the break ups and time apart he’s mean and belligerent then apologetic and loving.
breaks it off for a week or so then I go back…ps during the break ups and time apart he’s mean and belligerent then apologetic and loving.
My daughter couldn’t adjust and moved back up to Boston. She’s been here for
the summer and leaves for Boston tomorrow, (she really liked him too).
the summer and leaves for Boston tomorrow, (she really liked him too).
He’s been dating a married woman during this time and even a few months before
me. He finally leaves her and so I just about live with him.
me. He finally leaves her and so I just about live with him.
M with my daughter and his 8year old daughter, who adores me, continue to make plans
for all of us to live together. Then I find out he’s still seeing her.
for all of us to live together. Then I find out he’s still seeing her.
We argued and he threw me out so I went back to my home (which is 90 miles away)6 weeks ago AND the day before I found out he’s still seeing her.
He and his daughter were at my house packing up stuff for my move and we fought on the phone and text for close to 2 weeks. Now we do talk/text everyday not usually romantic
or relationship stuff just weather, kids, work etc.
or relationship stuff just weather, kids, work etc.
Last night he said how he misses me etc and wants to see me. It’s been 6 weeks …the longest time apart since we’ve been together.
How do I recover? I’m scared, heartbroken, devastated and angry I allowed him to mentally and emotionally abuse me. I don’t know how to move on.
Quite frankly I’m scared and part of me reallydoesn’t want to.
Sorry this is all over the board here but typing and trying to keep it short from my phone is a task”.
Answer
“As long as you are abandoning yourself rather than learning to love yourself, this will keep happening. Ask yourself, “What is loving to me?” You might want to start with our free Inner Bonding course at http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome.”
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