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Abusive Boyfriend Thinks She’s Being Pushy

Published on Aug 31, 2015

Question

“Hi I don’t know where to even start..Married for 19 years before asking for a divorce.

Reconnected with a childhood friend made lots of plans together and I relocated my self and 13 year old back to Florida.

I’ve been dating him almost 2 years, with always the “don’t give up on me” We continually talked about us living together from day one. Then he explodes, because I get “pushy” He
breaks it off for a week or so then I go back…ps during the break ups and time apart he’s mean and belligerent then apologetic and loving.

My daughter couldn’t adjust and moved back up to Boston. She’s been here for
the summer and leaves for Boston tomorrow, (she really liked him too).

He’s been dating a married woman during this time and even a few months before
me. He finally leaves her and so I just about live with him.

M with my daughter and his 8year old daughter, who adores me, continue to make plans
for all of us to live together. Then I find out he’s still seeing her.

We argued and he threw me out so I went back to my home (which is 90 miles away)6 weeks ago AND the day before I found out he’s still seeing her.

He and his daughter were at my house packing up stuff for my move and we fought on the phone and text for close to 2 weeks. Now we do talk/text everyday not usually romantic
or relationship stuff just weather, kids, work etc.

Last night he said how he misses me etc and wants to see me. It’s been 6 weeks …the longest time apart since we’ve been together.

How do I recover? I’m scared, heartbroken, devastated and angry I allowed him to mentally and emotionally abuse me. I don’t know how to move on.

Quite frankly I’m scared and part of me reallydoesn’t want to.

Sorry this is all over the board here but typing and trying to keep it short from my phone is a task”.

Answer

“As long as you are abandoning yourself rather than learning to love yourself, this will keep happening. Ask yourself, “What is loving to me?” You might want to start with our free Inner Bonding course at http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome.”

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Margaret Paul. Ph.D

CO-CREATOR OF INNER BONDING Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages. Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967. Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world -- mostly on the phone. She is able to access spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Her current passion is working on and developing content for this Website, as well as distributing SelfQuest®, the software program that teaches Inner Bonding® and is donated to prisons and schools, as well as sold to the general public. Margaret is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain and learn the path to joy and loving relationships. In her spare time, Margaret loves to paint, make pottery, take photos, watch birds, read, ride horses, and spend time with her grandchildren.