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Raped Victim Desperate To Convince Partner She Loves Him

In 1997 I was drugged then raped by both males and females, publicly and captured on people’s mobiles. This was then shared throughout my town. This attracted unwelcome attention from males which included another similar event in 2008.Sadly the people responsible were care workers and “friends”and sinceI had no memories of the events. I have been slandered,lied about and sexually abused.No-one believes me and my partnerdoesn’t either and says I have destroyed his life What can I do when he believed everyone else but me whatever ridiculous stories they come up with?

Signed by:
Heart broken by being raped!

I am sick to hear what happened to you, just sick.

I know you asked me what you can do to get him to believe that you love him.

While I know you think this is the real issue that you need help with, I promise you it’s not.

My answer is going to take us in a direction that you never anticipated, but, please, stay with me.

Your boyfriend is violating you and emotionally abusing you.

He is using your assault as a club to further assault you!

If you loved yourself the way you should, you wouldn’t allow this!

The proof that you don’t love yourself is found in the fact that you’re trying to convince him to believe you.

I can only imagine what your childhood was like. I am sure that you were abused, and that nobody listened to you and/or believed you.

What I’m going to say next might sound like blaming the victim, but hear me out.

We humans emit energetic frequencies that tell others how to treat us. If we’ve been beaten as kids, we send out energetic signals that say beat me some more. I’m used to it and I deserve it.

This explains why people who have been victimized early in life seem to be magnets for more victimization.

I’m not saying that the rape is your fault. What I am saying is that your history of abuse makes you vulnerable to abuse.

Believe it or not a study was done in which a rapist was asked how he chose his victims and the rapist said, “I pick people who emit a beaten down energy.”

I am sure that the wounds you suffered as a kid made you an energetic target to those rapists, and continues to make you a target of your boyfriend.

The goal here shouldn’t be to make him believe you, your one goal needs to be saving yourself body, mind and soul.

I mean that you must adopt, endorse and love this poor little wounded girl that lives inside of you.

All that matters is that you know the truth and you know what happened. You don’t need to convince yourself.

You need to love and honor your truth.

And you need to surround yourself with people who love and honor and respect you too.

Healing this inner child that cries and bleeds within you means that you don’t put her in anyone else’s hands but your own.

Your boyfriend isn’t the person to validate you, believe you or not.

This is your task.

I want you to surround yourself in love and have those around you mirror the love that you must give yourself.

I talk about how hard it is to love ourselves fully in my latest Hay House book, Love Never Dies. I do know. I was raised by verbally and physically abusive parents. It’s very hard to find love for yourself when you aren’t raised with it.

In my case, I show how my husband, in spirit form, helped me to fully achieve self-love. As I’ve discovered, the fast track to self-love is to connect with those who love us in spirit. Amazingly, once freed from the vessel of the human body, their love for us can enter us, and become our own self-love in an instant!

If you have any dead relatives who loved you, please let Love Never Dies show you how to connect with them and allow their love to enter your soul and heal you.

Meanwhile, surround yourself in loving people who walk the earth. Join a group and heal.

When you truly love yourself, you not only won’t be looking for your boyfriend to believe you, you won’t tolerate his abuse in any form. His life wasn’t ruined at all! Your life is being ruined by what he says to you, and what you allow him to say to you.

I put my foot down!


Work on loving yourself NOW.

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Known to millions as "Dr. Love" through her website, Dr. Turndorf founded the web's first and immensely popular relationship advice column in 1995. She consistently attracts new fans and keeps her existing audience engaged through her compassionate understanding as well as her frank delivery and earthy sense of humor. At the same time, she puts her listeners at ease while digging deeply in their psyches and prescribing her signature cure. Dr. Turndorf's multimedia platform allows her to share relevant and timely advice via radio, online, in print and on television. Her radio show, "Ask Dr. Love," can be heard in Seattle on KKNW and on WebTalkRadio, which broadcasts in 80 countries worldwide. Her column entitled "We Can Work it Out," is published monthly online in Psychology Today. Her critically acclaimed books have been teaching readers the hard and fast facts to healing relationships for years. Dr. Turndorf's methods have been featured on national television networks, including CNN, NBC, CBS, VH1 and Fox, and on websites such as WebMD, iVillage,, She has also been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Glamour, American Woman, Modern Bride, and Marie Claire. Dr. Turndorf’s latest Hay House book, Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love's 10 Simple Steps to Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship, has been endorsed by New York Times bestselling authors Jack Canfield, Dr. John Gray and John Bradshaw. Since the recent death of Emile Jean Pin, her beloved husband of 27 years, Dr. Turndorf has discovered that relationships do not end in death. His miraculous manifestations, often in front of witnesses, have proven to her that there is life after life and love never dies. As a result of her experiences, Dr. Turndorf has developed a groundbreaking form of grief therapy that diverges from the traditional Western approach (grieve, let go and move on). By contrast, her method guides people to reconnect and, if needed, make peace with their departed loved ones. Her latest Hay House book on this topic is entitled Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased. To understand fully what Old Scars are, how they are formed, how they affect your relationships, and how to heal them, read my book Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased. For Free Gift details or to receive a sneak peek of Love Never DIes, visit the book page:

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