What men want from women for many of us women remains a mystery. Find out the three things men really want from women but often don’t get!
Men and women are different! I am sure this comes as no surprise to you. We know we act and think differently; yet, we still get frustrated with each other. We may be frustrated because we can’t figure out what to do to make them happy, and we don’t understand what we are doing wrong. Whether you are single, dating or married you want to attract and keep the attention of a guy! If you are single, you want them to notice and be interested in you. If you are dating, in a relationship or married, you want that special guy in your life to stay interested in you. So what do men secretly want from you but may not tell you?
We live in a society where looks are suggested to be the most important aspect. We are bombarded with images of how a woman is supposed to look to be attractive. We are offered tons of products and surgical options to get that “look” that will get and keep your guy. So, is this really the most important aspect? NO! Men do want to be physically attracted to us, but there is a guy out there who finds you physically attractive just the way you are.
- Men do want a woman he is attracted to, but it is not just physical looks that attract him. Looks may be the initial attraction, but looks alone will not get or keep the guy. He needs to feel drawn to you emotionally. He needs to be happier with you than without you. He needs to miss you when you are apart and look forward to seeing you again. So how do you do that? If you are dating, relax and let things unfold at their own pace. Don’t try to move too fast in the relationship. No matter how long you have been together, have fun, flirt and be playful. There are times to be serious, but don’t forget to make the relationship fun. Men are attracted to women they like to be with. How fun are you to be around? Remember having a passion for life is sexy!
- Men want to be your hero. They want to feel like Superman when they are around you. Give him space to serve you in the relationship. Allow him to feel needed and appreciated. Men truly want to please us. Men want to feel successful in all areas of their life, including relationships. Men will not stay in a relationship where they do not feel successful. Allow him to do for you and then tell him how much you appreciate all he is doing. He will feel loved, want to do more for you, and stay in love with you.
- Men want you to be their cheerleader. My children have been listening to the new OMI song, Cheerleader. The song says, “I think I found myself a cheerleader. She’s always right there when I need her.” These lyrics remind me that men do not outgrow the desire for us to be their cheerleaders. This means accepting him for who he is and not being overly critical. By giving him unconditional support, you are showing him love in the way he most wants to receive it. Men are attracted to women are confident enough in their own lives to be responsible for their own happiness. They are not looking for a man to make them happy. This allows him to be loved and accepted as he is, flaws and all. None of us are perfect, but we can be the perfect partner for him.
For more information on how to find, keep or renew love and passion in your life, I have written a book entitled, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships.
[Lori Ann Davis]