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Are You Extremely Boring?

A 16-item self-assessment.

Bella DePaulo’s PsychologyToday.com article, What Makes People Boring? describes factors that make a person boring. Here, I adapt those into a self-assessment. Rate yourself honestly on each of these.

Part I : Ten-point questions

For the question in this Part, score yourself using this scale:

10: Almost always true

7: Often true

3: Occasionally true

0. Rarely true

1. I take a long time to make my points, perhaps repeating myself. ___

2. I show disinterest in others by talking about myself and when others talk I don’t really listen or change the topic. ___

3. I talk about unimportant things: sports, décor, pop culture, vacation, my children’s successes, etc. ___

4. I don’t contribute useful information. ___

Part II:  3-point questions

For each question in this Part, score yourself using this scale:

3: Almost always true

2: Usually true

1: Occasionally true

0. Rarely true

5. I brag. ___

6. I complain about my problems. ___

7. I’m a “broken record,” always talking about the same topic. ___

8. I repeat the same stories and jokes multiple times. ___

9. I conform to what most people believe. ___

10. I don’t express my feelings. ___

11. I don’t state my opinion. ___

12. I say much less in a conversation than do other people. ___

13. I talk more slowly than do most people. ___

14. I show little emotion. ___

15. I speak in a monotone. ___

16. I establish little eye contact. ___

Utterly unvalidated scoring key

Here’s a nearly arbitrary scoring key:

55-76  Borrrring

35 to 54  Worth conversing with

15 to 34  Interesting

Under 15  Fascinating

The takeaway

Of course, there’s more to being an interesting person than can be captured in a quick self-assessment but perhaps it gives you a pat on the back or suggests an area or two you’d like to work on.

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Named the San Francisco Bay Area’s “Best Career Coach,” Marty Nemko has been career and personal coach to 4,500 clients and enjoys a 96% client-satisfaction rate. The author of seven books (250,000 copies sold) including How to Do Life: What They Didn’t Teach You in School plus over 2,000(!) published articles, including on Time.com where he also writes, Marty Nemko is in his 26th year as host of Work with Marty Nemko on KALW-FM (NPR-San Francisco.) He was the one man in a one-man PBS-TV Pledge Drive Special. Marty Nemko holds a Ph.D. in educational psychology from the University of California, Berkeley and subsequently taught there. He is married to Barbara Nemko, the Napa County Superintendent of Schools. They have one daughter and one doggie: Einstein, whose name is false advertising: He’s dumb as dirt but sweet as they come. The archive of Marty Nemko’s writings and radio show plus an active blog and Twitter stream are at www.martynemko.com.

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