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Dating Tips – 5 of The Very Best

Dating tips for online dating and indeed the whole idea of online dating may sound like a last resort to you but for many finding someone to date online is their first choice especially when the club and bar scene isn’t happening for them. Meeting people in these places isn’t ideal especially when many will be under the influence of drink and you’re unlikely to see their true colours.

Online dating offers many advantages over these places. Here are just a few of them:

• Even if you’re shy it’s easier to contact other people knowing that everyone there is unattached.

• You may not look like a film star but other people may still be drawn to you by what you say in your profile.

• Annoying people – no problem – just log off or block them

• You can choose from thousands of profiles so you have more chance of finding what you’re looking for.

• With some of the best dating sites you can get to know someone from the comfort and safety of your own home using video chat before meeting them in person.

Nowadays you don’t need to worry about what your friends will think if they find you’ve joined a dating site since the chances are they’ve joined one too!

Could you meet your prefect mate online? Of course. Many others have done so why not you. It’s just a question of following the right steps to ensure you’re not wasting your time or money. Here are 5 top tips you can follow to give you the best chance of meeting your ideal match:

Dating Tips – 5 of the very best

Dating tip 1 – Choose a reputable (never free) dating site

Don’t be tempted into choosing a dating site purely because it’s free. The truth is you can waste a lot of your valuable time by joining free websites because they usually contain a high proportion of people who are not serious about dating. All the dating tips in the world won’t help you if you choose a free dating site.

Take a good look around  and join a few good dating sites – even the pay sites are free to join and browse other member’s profiles and this will enable you to see if the members are the types of people you are looking for. Bear in mind you will only have to pay when you wish to contact other members so take your time, take a good look around and be discriminating – after all with thousands of members you can afford to be.

You’ll also be able to find out how easy each site is to use and how effective their matchmaking tools are as well as the effectiveness of the security they use to keep scammers and spammers out. All sites will provide you with your own secure mailbox of course and many some kind of live chat.

In addition the best of the bunch have video chat that enables you to get to know someone well from the comfort and safety of your own home before meeting them in person. This feature is particularly effective too in ensuring the other person is who they say they are and if the picture they have added to their profile is current.

If you want to be able to connect with site members anytime anywhere using your mobile phone then you will need to make sure that the site you choose is mobile enabled.

Dating tip 2 – Complete compelling for sale and wanted ads

Think of your personal ad as a for sale ad and make sure it follows the AIDA principles – attention, interest, desire and action.

A – Use your best points to first create and attention grabbing headline

I –  Elaborate on what makes you interesting and unique

D – Give a compelling reason as to why someone really should not let the opportunity go to meet such a fantastic person as you

A – Suggest they contact you for more information

Oh and don’t forget to add a great picture or better still several pictures of yourself to your profile in a variety of situations so that people get a feel for you and your personality. Better still the best sites allow you to upload a video of yourself and believe me if you do that other members will come flocking to your door!

Throughout all of this try to inject some humour since nothing is as attractive as someone who makes you smile.

Not sure if you know yourself well enough to describe who you are? Ask a friend but make sure you insist they are honest with you and get them to describe you accurately. An honest description is vital otherwise when you meet someone you might not live up to their expectations!

Think to the type of person you’d like to meet as your wanted ad.

Not sure who you’re looking for? Well of course first and foremost you’re looking for someone who appreciates someone like you and although some people will tell you opposites attract in the real world this doesn’t make for a harmonious long term relationship.

Stick to the old adage “birds of a feather stick together” and you won’t go far wrong.

So ideally you should be looking for someone with the same values, interests and sense of humour as you. Spend some time deciding which attributes are essential as distinct from those that would be nice to have but you could do without and remember  NEVER settle for less than the essential.

Dating tip 3 – See the good in everyone you meet

Everyone of us is unique and everyone of us has good points. The world would be a far better place if everyone could focus on the good in people and compliment rather than criticise people all the time.

So try to bring some joy into the lives of everyone you meet by paying them compliments – it’s a really positive way to start a relationship and you never know where it might lead.

Compliments though have to be genuine so don’t be tempted to use flattery which is a real turn off for most people.

Don’t be afraid to tell someone that you think they’re beautiful, thoughtful, kind, nice etc. If you feel it in your heart let it out and make soemone’s day!

Dating tip 4 – Take your time

Meeting people online is a bit like using a slow cooker – you choose a recipe, carefully prepare the ingredients then enjoy the aroma before feasting on the end result.

So taking your time is an essential part of online dating. Get to know someone well enough first so that when you meet in person you won’t be disappointed.

Usually people start by sending an email or flirt to see if the other person is interested then if so followed by an exchange of emails before agreeing to use online chat or video chat.

Video chat is particularly effective in really finding out if you’re attracted to someone because it’s the nearest thing to meeting in person but from the comfort and safety of your own home. It also gives you a better idea if there’s any chemistry and can save you a great deal of time and the disappointment from meeting someone for a first date who isn’t what you expected.

Dating tip 5 – Communicate effectively

Avoid appearing as though you’re needy. Remember that communications to be effective should follow the principal – “you talk, I talk” so try not to bombard people with emails but only use them in reply to an email you have received.

Show an interest in what someone says in their email by commenting on what they have said so that you end up with a dialogue not a monologue and in this way build a rapport otherwise you’ll appear to be self centered and never get the chance to meet someone.

Make sure that you avoid any negative comments – your cup is always half full not half empty and remember laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone so be positive and be happy!

Sometimes, perhaps many times you’ll feel disappointed and may begin to think you’ll never find that special someone to share your life with. Don’t worry that’s normal.

Don’t expect to find what you’re looking for immediately – the chances are even if you join a dating site with  thousands of potential partners and follow these dating tips it will take time to find the right one for you.

Do you remember the Monkees song “I’m a believer”?

Here’s a video to help you recall and perhaps use a s a mantra anytime you feel dating disappointment.

http://youtu.be/XfuBREMXxts

Derek Collinson is a Business Consultant and Internet Entrepreneur and the founder of four of the most popular dating sites on the internet. The first site Derek founded was www.doglover.biz, the first dating site in the world for people who love dogs and want to share their lives with like minded people.

The second was www.attracion.com for people who are only interested in one thing – finding their soul mate and the third was www.thirdagedating.com for people 40 and over who want to share their lives with people from the same era.

Recently Derek created a new dating site called www.ourlifeourtime.com for people 50 and over.

Derek is a lifelong animal lover and vegetarian as well as being a qualified Reiki practitioner and uses Reiki to heal both people and all creatures great and small.

He spent three years using dating sites as a way of finding his soul mate and during that time gained invaluable knowledge of online dating through his experiences of meeting people online and offline as well as from running his three dating sites.

Derek’s confidence in online dating was rewarded when seven years ago he met his partner on his own dating site for dog lovers – www.doglover.biz.

He created www.howdoidate.com in March, 2013  to provide dating and relationship advice from qualified people to enable others to find love and build fulfilling relationships built on mutual respect, understanding and nurture.

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