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Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.

Dr. Stephen J. Betchen is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, as well as a critically acclaimed author and regular contributor to the popular Ladies’ Home Journal column, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” He currently serves as Clinical Assistant Professor at Thomas Jefferson University. For more than 25 years, Dr. Betchen has helped couples repair their relationships and reach new levels of happiness, whether they’re battling about in-laws, sex, parenting, infidelity, money, careers—or anything in between. (Case in point: He once treated folks who were at odds over the wife’s weight and the husband’s constant criticisms!) Dr. Betchen’s approach to couples therapy is refreshingly simple: He offers no gimmicks, slogans or quick fixes to nagging problems. Instead, Dr. Betchen believes that individuals change only when they discover what’s really driving their behavior—and that relationships change only when couples develop empathy for their partners and understand what really drew them together. (Turns out that physical attraction is just part of it.) Dr. Betchen provides in-depth analysis of couples’ attitudes and behavior, enabling them to see themselves and each other in a new light. And from there, he delivers real-world advice that teaches couples how to change themselves—and their relationship. Dr. Betchen is the author of numerous professional articles on relationships and makes frequent media appearances. His expert opinions often appear in national publications, including Family Circle and Men’s Health. In addition to Magnetic Partners, Dr. Betchen is the author of Intrusive Partners-Elusive Mates.

Stories By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.

Divorce

Do You Want To Escape From Your Controlling Wife?

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Jan 3, 2016

Are you seeking a divorce because you are married to a controlling wife? A 49-year-old professional...
Personal Development

What’s It Like To Be An Only Child When You’re An Adult?

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Jan 3, 2016

The quirks of an only child Although disputed by scholars past and present (Polit & Falbo,...
Criticism

How To Stop Relationship Disappointment Resulting In Divorce

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Dec 8, 2015

Managing relationship disappointment Psychotherapists who work with couples tend to see them as a system made...
Dating

The Dangers Of Online Dating You Need To Know About

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Nov 26, 2015

You may not be aware of all the dangers of online dating. One in particular you...
Physical attraction

Did You Marry When There Was No Physical Attraction? Why? – 4 More Reasons

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Oct 31, 2015

4 more reasons why people marry someone for whom they feel no physical attraction. I received...
Physical attraction

Did You Marry When There Was No Physical Attraction? Why?

By Stephen J. Betchen, Ph.D.Sep 14, 2015

Some people get married to someone for whom they feel no physical attraction. Here are the...