Holiday Fling Ends Badly
Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D.
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Holiday fling confusion
Hello
So I recently met someone while on vacation the story begins like this I saw this woman from across the bar and I immediately knew we were from the same city, I went over and asked her if she was from said city and she said yes. We were hitting it off very well in even having the same birthday and the same mundane interests. For the next three days we spent every minute together prompting her sister to say I’ve never seen her this happy. We are both in our 30 ‘ and professional, Leading me to believe that this was more than a vacation fling. However as soon as she arrived home I only heard from her to say she wants nothing to do w me. My question is not so much as to how I make it work but more importantly as to why she would do that and what changed-Signed by:confused
I’m so sorry to hear about what happened.
You know, I have often noticed that people who jump in too hard and fast often are fighting against their own fear of attachment. There’s a defense mechanism called The Reaction Formation, in which a person will do the exact opposite as a way of defending against his/her deepest urge. So, for example, the person who comes on hot and heavy, may be defending against the terror of getting close. Then, that same person will run for the hills, just and fast and without warning.
Since she liked you, this is the only plausible explanation that I can find.
She’s damaged, scared to death of commitment and intimacy and, you, unfortunately, got burned.
I’m so sorry.
Next time around, be wary of someone who comes on too strong, too fast. Like fine wine, let your relationship develop with time.
