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Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT

Dr. Fjelstad has been a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for nearly thirty years. Through her college teaching at CSUS in California and Regis University in Colorado, she has trained hundreds of students to become therapists. She is noted for her work with clients who grew up with a mentally ill parent and those who take on a caretaking role with a borderline or narcissistic family member. Her book, Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on With Life, was published in 2014 by Rowman and Littlefield and is available on Amazon.com. Dr. Fjelstad has a private practice and conducts Caretaker recovery groups in Colorado. She has a workbook, an on-line class, and a monthly newsletter available through her website for people who want to quit caretaking. Dr. Fjelstad also provides phone consultations for people who have questions about a current or ex-loved one with BPD or NPD.

Stories By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFT

Inner critic

The Remarkable Evolution Of The Inner Critic

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTAug 14, 2015

How does the inner critic develop and how can we get it under control? Recently the...
Abuse

How To Stop Your Partner Bullying You

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTJun 23, 2015

Stop making excuses for your partner’s abuse and stop their bullying instead! People who are willing...
Caretaking

How A Manipulative Partner Will Make You Desperately Unhappy

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTJun 22, 2015

Why you cannot depend on a manipulative partner to satisfy your needs What is it that...
Abuse

How To Break Free From A Manipulator

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTJun 22, 2015

Letting go of an emotional manipulator even when you think you can’t But despite all that,...
Healthy relationships

You Need To Apply These 5 A’s For Healthy Relationships

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTJun 22, 2015

Can you tell the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships? David Richo, in his book”...
Fear of failure

How To Stop Your Inner Critic From Destroying Self Esteem

By Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., LMFTJun 22, 2015

You need to protect your self esteem from your inner critic! The Inner Critic part of...