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Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.

Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., holds doctorates in both English and Psychology. Formerly an English professor at Queens College (CUNY) and Cleveland State University, he now lives in Del Mar, California, where he has maintained a general private practice since 1986. With clinical specialties in anger, trauma resolution (EMDR), couples conflict, compulsive/addictive behaviors, and depression, he has also taught some 200 adult education workshops on these subjects. In addition, he has served as consultant to both corporations and publishers. The author of The Vision of Melville and Conrad, he has also written numerous articles in the fields of literature and psychology. He is probably best known for his professional guide book Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy, which describes a wide array of seemingly illogical therapeutic interventions. These powerful techniques can help therapists effectively resolve difficult individual and marital/family problems when more straightforward methods have proved unsuccessful. An active blogger for Psychology Today, as of 1/1/15 his more than 250 posts--on a broad variety of psychological topics--have received over 8 million views.

Stories By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.

Healthy relationships

This Is A Really Good Way To Build Strong Relationships

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 17, 2015

To build strong relationships you need to stop accidentally offending others . . . and feeling...
Fantasies

Why Is Rape One Of Women’s Most Popular Sexual Fantasies?

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 14, 2015

Women: Ever had exciting sexual fantasies about being sexually “devoured” by a stranger? Study after study...
Control

This Is The Danger In Being Possessive With The One You Love

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 13, 2015

Why you need to resist becoming possessive when you fall in love When you become passionate...
Anger

Is The Concept Of Anger Management Flawed?

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 12, 2015

Oversimplifying the multifaceted emotion of anger and dismissing anger management only leads to confusion. As someone...
Marriage

Why A Fair Marriage Is A Healthy Marriage

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 11, 2015

Unless both parties think their marriage is fair they will never have a healthy marriage Nothing...
Relationships

The Seduction Paradox: Who Is Seducing Whom?

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.Dec 10, 2015

In scenes of seduction, can you really be sure who’s seducing whom? [tweetthis]”A man chases a...